tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6584420.post117060668122832569..comments2024-03-19T14:44:41.142+00:00Comments on incurable hippie's musings and rants: How to *really* prevent rape.Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6584420.post-40008000926529644642008-06-30T04:47:00.000+01:002008-06-30T04:47:00.000+01:00Good thoughts, but..If tomorrow we told murderers ...Good thoughts, but..<BR/><BR/>If tomorrow we told murderers don't murder, burglars don't burglarize, and con men to stop conning people would all of the above crimes come to an end or even be significantly reduced?<BR/><BR/>Rapists do not care, what their actions do to the physical or emotional well being of their victims. Some do not even care what society thinks of them. The rapist is thinking only of himself and his own personal gratification when he commits the crime.<BR/><BR/>Increasing social pressure against rape will reduce the incidence of the crime, but it will not eliminate it, particuraly in high risk repeat offenders and in particular sexual sadists.<BR/><BR/>Rape should be treated as a more serious crime under law as a threat and deterrence and most importantly to keep offenders off the streets. And eliminating the culture that says rape is okay is a must to reducing rape.<BR/><BR/>But telling would be rapists 'don't' will not stop many of them, as many of their victims know all too well as they begged for mercy from their attackers.<BR/><BR/>The only way to reduce rape is stiffer anti rape laws, rigid enforcement to put offenders behind bar before they can commit their crimes again. Men should not shield their rapist/wife abuser buddies, be it friends, relatives, police or judges. It should be a serious crime not to report a rape with a stiff sentence.<BR/><BR/>Police officers should not brush aside accusations of rape lightly. Officers and Judges that let these crimes continue should be held accountable for corruption as if they were in league with drug runners.<BR/><BR/>However, the risk of rape will never be entirely gone. There will be times when defensive measures are not enough and female victims cannot be blamed for this.<BR/><BR/>However, just as people reduce risks for other type of crime, measures can and should be taken against rape, many more women would be victims today if they did not take active steps to avoid an attack.<BR/><BR/>People buy locks and security systems to protect against theft and burglary. People aviod certain neighborhoods and times of day to be out, they don't carry too much money or let people see them typing in their ATM number.<BR/><BR/>Rape will not be always be prevented, stiffer laws and social exclusion of rapists and their cohorts will not make women fully safe on the street or in their own homes. Risk is a part of our daily lives, all we can do is mitigate risk through smart public policies and take risk reduction measures in our own lives against the threat of any number of crimes.<BR/><BR/>Ultimately the only thing anyone has control over is their own personal actions, some actions increase risk, some decrease it, but it will always be there so long as there are rapists, and it is highly doubtful even if rape becomes an extreme social taboo such as cannibalism that it will come to a total end.<BR/><BR/>most rapes and rapists can be stopped at an early age by teaching respect and love for women as equals. That physical might does not make right.<BR/><BR/>Part of it is social, the view in many cultures of women as objects of desire. In such social circumstances the value of women is reduced and offenders do not consider the impact of their crime on their victims.<BR/><BR/>The porn industry and societies/industries/religions that demean women are to blame for this. The objectification of women is the primary source of the most common rapes. Be it the frat boy or the muslim extremist the rapist does not view his victims as equal human beings, he views them as objects to be used for his pleasure.<BR/><BR/>The underlying sexist social roots must first be attacked before the crime of rape can be sucessfully addressed.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6584420.post-16850669359081271782007-04-11T20:09:00.000+01:002007-04-11T20:09:00.000+01:00Well we could all start with a little teeth brushi...Well we could all start with a little teeth brushing for that <A HREF="http://www.cuprident.com/badbreath.php" REL="nofollow">bad breath</A>.thomasshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04655290809381730269noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6584420.post-1171219289297267902007-02-11T18:41:00.000+00:002007-02-11T18:41:00.000+00:00Sparkle*Matrix - how appalling to receive a commen...Sparkle*Matrix - how appalling to receive a comment like that! Yeuch!<BR/><BR/>Rachel - don't worry about repeating it - it can't be repeated enough, as far as I'm concerned!! And enthusiastic agreement is always to be recommended ;)<BR/><BR/>Everyone - glad you've liked the article. I think it's fantastic too.incurable hippiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13537972928288562694noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6584420.post-1171185298125805752007-02-11T09:14:00.000+00:002007-02-11T09:14:00.000+00:00Ooops, I see you already posted it, sorry about th...Ooops, I see you already posted it, sorry about that. That will teach me not to read every link before enthusiastically agreeing.Rachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04807921540492728422noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6584420.post-1171185205065854432007-02-11T09:13:00.000+00:002007-02-11T09:13:00.000+00:00Fantastic. A while back a meme aimed at men, ironi...Fantastic. A while back a meme aimed at men, ironically called 'How to Prevent Rape' did the round of blogland which many male bloggers forwarded about; in fact, I got sent it and saw it posted on many more men's blogs than womens,<BR/><BR/>http://rachelnorthlondon.blogspot.com/2005/12/how-to-avoid-rape.html<BR/><BR/>I reproduce it in full here....<BR/><BR/>A lot has been said about how to prevent rape.Women should learn self-defense. Women should lock themselves in their houses after dark. Women shouldn't have long hair and women shouldn't wear short skirts. Women shouldn't leave drinks unattended. Fuck, they shouldn't dare to get drunk at all.<BR/><BR/>Instead of that bullshit, how about:<BR/><BR/>If a woman is drunk, don't rape her.If a woman is walking alone at night, don't rape her.<BR/>If a women is drugged and unconscious, don't rape her.<BR/>If a woman is wearing a short skirt, don't rape her.<BR/>If a woman is jogging in a park at 5 am, don't rape her.<BR/>If a woman looks like your ex-girlfriend you're still hung up on, don't rape her.<BR/>If a woman is asleep in her bed, don't rape her.<BR/>If a woman is asleep in your bed, don't rape her.<BR/>If a woman is doing her laundry, don't rape her.<BR/>If a woman is in a coma, don't rape her.<BR/>If a woman changes her mind in the middle of or about a particular activity, don't rape her.<BR/>If a woman has repeatedly refused a certain activity, don't rape her.<BR/>If a woman is not yet a woman, but a child, don't rape her.<BR/>If your girlfriend or wife is not in the mood, don't rape her.If your step-daughter is watching tv, don't rape her.<BR/>If you break into a house and find a woman there, don't rape her.<BR/>If your friend thinks it's okay to rape someone, tell him it's not, and that he's not your friend.<BR/>If your "friend" tells you he raped someone, report him to the police.<BR/>If your frat-brother or another guy at the party tells you there's an unconscious woman upstairs and It's your turn, don't rape her, call the police and tell the guy he's a rapist.<BR/>Tell your sons, god-sons, nephews, grandsons, sons of friends it's not okay to rape someone.<BR/>Don't tell your women friends how to be safe and avoid rape.<BR/>Don't imply that she could have avoided it if she'd only done/not done x.<BR/>Don't imply that it's in any way her fault.<BR/>Don't let silence imply agreement when someone tells you he "got some" with the drunk girl.<BR/>Don't perpetuate a culture that tells you that you have no control over or responsibility for your actions. <BR/>You can, too, help yourself.<BR/>If you agree, repost it. It's that important.Rachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04807921540492728422noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6584420.post-1170965958018876572007-02-08T20:19:00.000+00:002007-02-08T20:19:00.000+00:00wow. excellent article. thanks for sharing it!wow. excellent article. thanks for sharing it!ms. jaredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09735908592839537970noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6584420.post-1170686742307115882007-02-05T14:45:00.000+00:002007-02-05T14:45:00.000+00:00YES! I got in for once...and now I've forgot what ...YES! I got in for once...and now I've forgot what I was going to say, in the excitement.<BR/><BR/>Ah yes, it's a thoughtful yet in your face message. I have already had the snarky (unapproved) comments of such ludicrous ramblings on my blog re the article - for example ahem - "telling men to stop raping is the same as telling a sperm not to fertilize an ovum" (paraphrased)<BR/><BR/>Hmm yes, that's what I thought!sparklematrixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04845382651557594880noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6584420.post-1170622410674330262007-02-04T20:53:00.000+00:002007-02-04T20:53:00.000+00:00Wow. What a brilliant article. I love it when peop...Wow. What a brilliant article. I love it when people just tell it how it is!<BR/><BR/>Thanks for this.<BR/><BR/>Claire<BR/>xxxxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com